Aspergers syndrome
I am the partner of a parent with a child with possible AS(Aspergers Syndrome) I am divorced and have been with my current partner for over six years. We would argue about his sons behavior and as a receptionist in a mental health counseling center learned about alot of different behaviors of adults and children. I always knew that he had social problems, but his dad would not listen to me when I would bring up the possibility of AS. He has been tested at school recently and observed by at least two different physcologists and several teacher's . They all think he has AS and it is really bothering his dad. He/we just do not not know how to deal with him sometimes. I have two children, one is 14, and the other will be 19 in July. My 18 year old son is in college and I feel that sometimes my partner thinks I compare my children to his son, of course I do not, but it causes problems sometimes. He is a very bright and intelligent child, but his social skills are very poor. We just want more information to be able to make the best of the situation. His father is about ready to give up and we need advice. We even separated because we could not communicate about the situation. We got together again and that is when he was dx with possible AS, and his son does not him to be with me because he thinks I am going to take all of his dad's attention. We live in separate houses now and every time he comes over, if he has to follow certian rules he looks at his dad and says he does not want to be there anymore and demands to leave. Somebody please HELP me and give me some advice.Sincerely, Concerned
Posted by:
retta
Reply from:
Wayne Yankus
Date: Jun 24, 2008 at 5:27 pm
Reply from:
retta Date: Jun 25, 2008 at 2:24 pm
This is the first time I have ever asked for advice from stangers and i do not understand the inappropriate flag to this comment. Thank you for responding to my posting.
sincerely, concerned
Reply from:
retta Date: Jun 25, 2008 at 2:37 pm
I apologize I forgot to tell you his age, he turned thirteen this month. I do not think your response was inappropriate and do not understand why it said that. Thanks again.
Reply from:
raginigidwani Date: Jun 30, 2008 at 9:22 am
reeta try to be more frendly and frank with your patners son at the stage he needs support of you both. make him more comfortable with the socity.talk to him when he needs you. be with him when he needs. best of luck
Reply from:
zman Date: Jun 24, 2008 at 6:08 pm
Your kid could can be suffering from ADHD/AS or Autism. Talk to his physician and ask him to refer for ADI-R and ADOS. Many times, AS is misdiagnosed as ADHD and the these test will help narrow it down. Since it is difficult to Diagnosing as age progresses, it is better to address sooner.
By the way, real parents see their kids differently than others and they can be in constant denial. Talk to your partner and see the possibilities to see a physician.
Goodluck and never give up!!!
Reply from:
retta Date: Jun 25, 2008 at 2:31 pm
Thank you for your response to my posting, he is 13 and has had some testing and will recieve more in the future, thanks again and i never give up on people i love and care about. Sincerely, Concerned
P.S They have already ruled out ADHD. He has already taken these tests atleast the ADOS.
Reply from:
mandalieu Date: Sep 29, 2008 at 12:12 am
What do you know about this ADI-R and ADOS. My son I think, has aspergers and I am fighting tooth and nail to get someone to listen to me and evaluate him. The school wants me to medicate him; and I'm convinced its aspergers and not adhd. Any thoughts?
Reply from:
Laura Compian
Date: Sep 29, 2008 at 3:43 pm
The ADOS is one of the most commonly administered instruments to assess Autism and Pervasive Developmental Disorders (including Aspergers, PDD-NOS). I am not as familiar with the ADI-R, but it looks to be a well standardized assessment.
As for securing a more thorough assessment, you are eligible for many services through your school district (even if your child is a preschooler), including an assessment fro FREE. Depending upon where you are in the process, you should approach your pediatrician or school special education coordinator. When dealing with school personnel in regards to special education, the key is to use the appropriate language and make your requests in writing. This article provides some useful information on the topic:
http://www.education.com/reference/article/Ref_ABCs_Advocacy/
Good luck and keep us posted.
L. Compian, Ph.D.
Counseling Psychologist
Education.com Reference Team
Reply from:
Heart2Heart1 Date: Aug 13, 2008 at 3:13 pm
Dear Concerned, I think you should listen to your child's Pedatrician or the psycologist and take him to see a Specalist who treats patients with Asperger's Syndrome. That is what my parents did when I was an infant and they saw that I wasn't acheiving signifigant developmental milestones. You also need to watch him when he is at home and look for the signs and symptoms to make sure that his teachers know what they are talking about.
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